Thank you to Gargi for nominating me and for #CoCreateSA judges for including me in the InspiringFiftySA 2018 list. This makes it a very special women’s month in deed.
Giving is easy, or so I thought until 2008 when I decided to host a Toy Drive (www.annualtoydrive.info) to raise toys (we can discuss what constitutes a toy in another post (“,)) for orphanages and hospitals.
I’ve always respected those who live for others, but until this point, I had no idea what this actually meant.
Those who give selflessly to others should be commended. The care-givers, social workers and mothers of the world should be awarded with badges of honor.
To give more of oneself and not ask for anything in return is something a truly self-less person can do. Personally, until this point, I’ve always seen myself as self-less and giving. Since then, I realise that I am not selfish, but could do more of giving selflessly.
This I intend doing from this day on. I plan to do what I can, when I can and start with the little things such as donate my time where it is requested. So, here’s to the future, may we all give selflessly and help those who cannot help themselves (“,).
Contribute here: www.annualtoydrive.info
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This month marks Women’s month and there are a few awesome things happening:
Women’s month always fascinates me. It feels like once a month, in an ENTIRE year, women are pampered, praised and made the centre of attention. Sure there are always programs and events geared especially for women, but somehow August is where it is all at.
I often get asked to speak, addressing a group of sassy, savvy women, some in business for themselves and some in corporate jobs. But what really interests me, is when we are invited to breakfast, pampering sessions, where tea and facials are highlight.
SURE! I love being pampered. But what I LOVE more is engaging with smart women, who want to be and do more.
So my session is really not going to be about me (well not mostly anyway) but tips and tools which help me be more of who I am meant to be, be stronger, and get to be more on par with changing the world. Because what I really want and need more than anything, are tools to equip me in this time-frantic-economy. (Am I wrong about this?? Drop me an email if I am.)
We need to be armed with the tools we are not naturally gifted with. Some of us are born with assertion, some of us not. Some of us need to speak up more, some can’t stop and listen. I feel that when companies want to do something good for us, it mostly defaults to tea and pampering sessions, what to wear in business or simply listening to someone speak for ages.
This women’s month, dare to be different. Dare to say, I’d like a side of “how-to-kick-ass-in-X,Y,Z” with my wine. This month, do something special for that woman in your life. Look for cues as to what she needs.
Women’s day for me is like my birthday with my mom who buys a pair of slippers for me EVERY year. Don’t get me wrong, ironically every year, I do need a new pair. But every now and then, I wish she would surprise me with something different, not more expensive or fancy, just different.
In this light, I invite you, the woman of the new age, to join me at The Business Exchange Women’s Day networking event, at the Sandton location, more information is detailed in the Invitation below. Please RSVP to Nadine.
See you there!
What a way to start the week with a nomination for InspiringFifty. Thank you to #CoCreateSA and Holland, for the acknowledgement.
What is Inspiring Fifty?
Inspiring Fifty is a Dutch based non-profit organisation that showcases inspiring female role models in the technology industry in the Netherlands, France, Europe and the Nordics. Built on the core philosophy ”If she can see it, she can be it”, Inspiring Fifty annually awards the 50 most inspiring women in the technology sector with the aim of providing a platform that brings more visibility to the achievements of women in the innovation and technology sector.
I’ve always believed that being “busy” is being productive. Do you feel the same way? If not, I’ll share my story with you.
I am not quite sure where the drive to be busy continuously came from, but busy-ness, in my world, meant working crazy hours, sleeping few hours, working weekends and most importantly the guilt that is attached to non-busy times or times you can’t be busy or “work”.
I’ve lived this way for years, all my life.
BUSY IS NOT AN INDICATION OF PRODUCTIVITY OR EFFECTIVENESS.
Add in a child, a husband, two cats and a business.
Busy, oh expected right?
Busy, oh needed right?
But sometimes, something small (with major impact) happens, when you are sitting in a room with your child, and having just come from work, on your phone/tablet/laptop etc. and your child says “mommy, I am here”.
“Mommy, I am here”.
Those words, powerful and so clear.
We all have things to do. We all have places to go. Deadlines are always there. However, moments with loved ones (family, friends, children, parents), are fleeting.
Busy-ness does not mean results. Busy-ness, does not yield results. Busy-ness is not a measure of how good you are at your job, although many would disagree.
My work days are short, super short. I drop and fetch kid. I am home by 4pm, commencing with the mom/wife/homely thing. By 8.30 most nights I am passed out with kid, at about anytime between 12 and 2am, I sleep walk back to by bedroom and most mornings I am up at 5am to catch-up, before commencing Mom duty at 6.30.
During my workday, my focus has to be very clear on what I need to achieve for the day. I work on my bigger goal, edging my way toward it inch-by-inch.
I do not have to book every minute of my time. My aim is results-driven and not stuff-driven. Sending 100’s of emails a day, doesn’t mean deal-closing and is not an indicator of how effective I was on that day. Engaging with potential customers, follow-ing up, signing contracts and reaching milestones, this is what makes up my results bucket (mostly).
I’ve been listening to so many podcasts and watching Ted Talks on productivity, procrastination, work-life-balance and more and my take-aways are as follows:
I have so much more to share on this topic. For now I will say that the biggest lessons I learn (daily), usually stem from my 3,5 year-old boy who keeps me sane, grounded and practicing my negotiations.
Busyness, be gone.
Focus, results, let’s go!
Giving back doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. Helping someone cross the street, giving some money to a homeless person, or just being kind.
Ten years ago, I was tired of waiting for the grand moment to do something good for someone else. That was when The Annual Toy Drive was born. It started as an idea and ten years later, 100’s of kids, and beneficiaries later we are still around.
This year marks TEN years. I am very proud of this. Even though we can always do better, there are always those who support us. Thank you and please continue to share the message that every bit counts.
If you happen to be in Johannesburg on the 8th April 2017, join us at 2pm in Delta Cafe.
I’ve always believed that in order to do lots of good in the world, one has to do well. At the DWEN Summit I attended in Cape Town last week, this belief was flipped around by Ashish Thakkar who believed that if you “do well you will do good“. I love this philosophy so much more.
I then researched this phrase and it’s been around for ages and used in various ways.
As I am going through a challenging period at work, I haven’t been thinking about the good I do or the happiness and laughter that I usually am all about doing and sharing.
So … to share some inspiration – Ashish Thakkar’s book is available on Amazon and shares the true story of a booming Africa often not seen by media’s hunger to sell stories of negativity instead of hope and growth.
To spread happiness, unless you’re easily offended, watch some of Amy Schumer’s stand up https://youtu.be/uOAJiihzsAU or if you looking for something less “offensive” watch some of James Corden’s karaoke carpool, here is one of my favorites or Ellen always manages to make me laugh and cry. Subscribe to her YouTube channel and be inspired everyday https://www.youtube.com/user/TheEllenShow.
As Ellen would say “be kind to one another”. Thank you Ellen, I needed to hear that from you today.
Bringing happiness into the lives of others since 1978.